<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28193856</id><updated>2011-07-28T05:16:26.512-07:00</updated><category term='eskom team building'/><category term='conflict in eskom teams'/><category term='conflict in eskom'/><category term='team conflict'/><category term='team building in eskom'/><title type='text'>Conflict Management in Eskom</title><subtitle type='html'></subtitle><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default?max-results=100'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>Arthie and Brian V Moore</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15139338540070412879</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-IrIBZbuv4Tk/Tia2E4iNnCI/AAAAAAAAARk/yKw-PzQT0Ws/s220/Arthie%2Band%2BBrian%2B16%2B7%2B2011%2B-%2BBlue%2BLagoon.JPG'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>5</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>100</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28193856.post-95781029014256543</id><published>2008-10-18T22:52:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2008-10-18T22:54:20.472-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='team building in eskom'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='team conflict'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='conflict in eskom'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='eskom team building'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='conflict in eskom teams'/><title type='text'>Team Conflict Resolution Interventions. Standing at a Crossroads.</title><content type='html'>(Our teams have an amazing amount of team building experience with Eskom, Government and Corporate teams.)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Teams, businesses and organizations that are under pressure to transform their troubled teams, are often challenged by the wealth of “solutions” offered, by companies. Some of these solutions are great - and many are doomed to failure.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If your team is being forced to find a solution, your team is at a crossroads of danger and opportunity.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The danger lies in choosing the wrong “solution(s”) and yet, if you get your choice right, there are huge hidden opportunities to build individuals and teams, and thereby reap great rewards.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Self-defeating team conflict resolution programs will have strategies that:-&lt;br /&gt;• try isolate to the “troublemakers”, and get them to resolve their differences.&lt;br /&gt;• exclude any member/s of the team in the process.&lt;br /&gt;• hand the management of the team’s behaviors, with agreements from “team agreed resolution”, to your managers/ supervisors.&lt;br /&gt;• isolate, intimidate, or simply ignore certain team members.&lt;br /&gt;• neglect the development of communication skills, team and individual personality skills, understanding of the carious diversities within the team.&lt;br /&gt;• Go with a talk-down and divisive diversity training program.&lt;br /&gt;• Use unsuitable and un-focused team building programs - that isolate even 1 member of your team..&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If any of these factors form part of your attempts to resolve team conflict, the process, and your money, will be wasted. More so, it could negatively impact your team - in the long term..&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The opportunity to build teams is found in the wisdom, uniqueness, talents and skills of your team. When we hire people, we hope that they are mature enough to manage their own behavior. After we sign the employment contracts, we then begin to control their every action. We put managers in charge of all decisions. Soon we have people who will not even go to the toilet without permission. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Our over-control has taken away their sense of value, ownership, accountability and responsibility. And this is where team conflict begins.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The methodologies included in Celebrating Humanity Diversity Training and Transformational team-building programs - outlined in our book  - Team Conflict resolution Strategies - ensures that team transformation is non-threatening, unifying and inclusive. It ensures that we give the power back to your teams - to manage their own behavior - through their own agreements.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This takes incredible stress off managers and supervisors, and the business/organization. In turn, empowered people drive your business in a safe and respectful place created by themselves.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Our teams have been called in to resolve conflict when the psychologists, and conflict resolution specialists have been unsuccessful. The people that we meet are often disillusioned, angry and isolated. Management is stressed, backstabbing, gossiping and labor disputes are the order of the day. And all of this is after numerous “conflict resolution solutions.”&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Our teams bring fun, communication, respect and understanding into the team - before we even look at developing team-based codes of conduct. And when we leave - we have put in place ongoing team-managed processes - supported by our follow-up processes. Our feed back is always taken at least a year after the initial program. And the results are always excellent - without fail!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Read the book - and use the lessons therein, or call in our teams. Whichever way your go - this will be the best decision you will ever make.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Brian Moore - Copyright. October 2008&lt;br /&gt;www.celebrating-humanity-projects.com&lt;br /&gt;info@africa-dreams.com&lt;br /&gt;Mobile: +27 82 552 3352&lt;br /&gt;Mobile: +27 82 774 5521&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/28193856-95781029014256543?l=conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/feeds/95781029014256543/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=28193856&amp;postID=95781029014256543' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/95781029014256543'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/95781029014256543'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/2008/10/team-conflict-resolution-interventions.html' title='Team Conflict Resolution Interventions. Standing at a Crossroads.'/><author><name>Arthie and Brian V Moore</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15139338540070412879</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-IrIBZbuv4Tk/Tia2E4iNnCI/AAAAAAAAARk/yKw-PzQT0Ws/s220/Arthie%2Band%2BBrian%2B16%2B7%2B2011%2B-%2BBlue%2BLagoon.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28193856.post-1890419473936066004</id><published>2008-06-05T02:47:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2008-06-05T02:47:27.390-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Moneyweb - News - Eskom lashes out at Nersa</title><content type='html'>An interesting article for you,&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Enjoy,&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Brian&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.moneyweb.co.za/mw/view/mw/en/page1655?oid=207998&amp;amp;sn=Detail"&gt;Moneyweb - News - Eskom lashes out at Nersa&lt;/a&gt;: "22 May 2008 16:14&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Eskom Holdings Limited rejects, in the strongest possible terms, the suggestion that the Eskom management has been pre-occupied with the profitability of the utility at the expense of providing adequate supply of electricity to the country. This is a misguided statement and can never be substantiated in fact.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Eskom has consistently spent in excess of what the National Energy Regulator of South Africa's (NERSA) has allowed for primary energy cost in its Multi-Year Price Determination. In this current phase of the three year price determination (commencing 1 April 2006 ending 31 March 2009), Eskom will spend R13 billion over and above what the Regulator has allowed in its determination. For the past two financial years, Eskom spent R6 billion more than what the Regulator allowed. For the current financial year, Eskom is projecting to spend another R6 billion in excess of what the Regulator has allowed for primary energy cost.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The Board further disagrees with the NERSA conclusion that 'there appears to be a conflict between Eskom's business objectives and its reason for existence: to supply electricity"&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/28193856-1890419473936066004?l=conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='related' href='http://www.moneyweb.co.za/mw/view/mw/en/page1655?oid=207998&amp;sn=Detail' title='Moneyweb - News - Eskom lashes out at Nersa'/><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/feeds/1890419473936066004/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=28193856&amp;postID=1890419473936066004' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/1890419473936066004'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/1890419473936066004'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/2008/06/moneyweb-news-eskom-lashes-out-at-nersa.html' title='Moneyweb - News - Eskom lashes out at Nersa'/><author><name>Arthie and Brian V Moore</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15139338540070412879</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-IrIBZbuv4Tk/Tia2E4iNnCI/AAAAAAAAARk/yKw-PzQT0Ws/s220/Arthie%2Band%2BBrian%2B16%2B7%2B2011%2B-%2BBlue%2BLagoon.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28193856.post-7118639385261673588</id><published>2008-06-05T01:16:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2008-06-05T01:16:59.339-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Team Conflict Resolution: Simple, Effective Team Conflict Strategies that Really Work: For Teams, Office &amp; Workplace</title><content type='html'>&lt;a href="http://www.teamconflictstrategies.com/"&gt;Team Conflict Resolution: Simple, Effective Team Conflict Strategies that Really Work: For Teams, Office &amp;amp; Workplace&lt;/a&gt;: "How To Clear Stress &amp;amp; Conflict from Your Teams in 24 Hours!&lt;br /&gt;These Fast, Effective and Simple Team Conflict Resolution Strategies Will Get Your Team Members Communicating, Supporting Each Other and Working Together - in the Long Term...&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;And You Can Use That Unity To Explode Sales And Get A Huge Advantage In Your Business...&lt;br /&gt;... You Will See Results In As Little As 24 Hours... Without Mediation, Conflict Resolution, Therapists, Labour Lawyers or Psychologists,"&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/28193856-7118639385261673588?l=conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='related' href='http://www.teamconflictstrategies.com/' title='Team Conflict Resolution: Simple, Effective Team Conflict Strategies that Really Work: For Teams, Office &amp; Workplace'/><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/feeds/7118639385261673588/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=28193856&amp;postID=7118639385261673588' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/7118639385261673588'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/7118639385261673588'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/2008/06/team-conflict-resolution-simple.html' title='Team Conflict Resolution: Simple, Effective Team Conflict Strategies that Really Work: For Teams, Office &amp; Workplace'/><author><name>Arthie and Brian V Moore</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15139338540070412879</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-IrIBZbuv4Tk/Tia2E4iNnCI/AAAAAAAAARk/yKw-PzQT0Ws/s220/Arthie%2Band%2BBrian%2B16%2B7%2B2011%2B-%2BBlue%2BLagoon.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28193856.post-5193744361101683382</id><published>2008-06-05T01:13:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2008-06-05T01:13:25.084-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Diversity Training in South Africa</title><content type='html'>&lt;a href="http://www.diversity-training-in-south-africa.blogspot.com/"&gt;Diversity Training in South Africa&lt;/a&gt;: "Protecting one's Turf - McDonnel's road&lt;br /&gt;Conflict will often arise in the workplace, when we cross into team members 'domains', the special little side-empires that they have built. Their 'departments', or their offices. They live in fear that this space will be changed, by those around them.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;They live in a small space, and suffer their pains alone. They believe that no-one else has felt their pain. And they feel the need t0 fight to protect their turf and keep their pain, as a reason to live.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I was on one of the Isles of Aran, off the West Coast of Ireland, yesterday - with my beautiful wife, Arthie.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;We were taken on a tour of the island by a man, on his horse and carriage..."&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/28193856-5193744361101683382?l=conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='related' href='http://www.diversity-training-in-south-africa.blogspot.com/' title='Diversity Training in South Africa'/><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/feeds/5193744361101683382/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=28193856&amp;postID=5193744361101683382' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/5193744361101683382'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/5193744361101683382'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/2008/06/diversity-training-in-south-africa.html' title='Diversity Training in South Africa'/><author><name>Arthie and Brian V Moore</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15139338540070412879</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-IrIBZbuv4Tk/Tia2E4iNnCI/AAAAAAAAARk/yKw-PzQT0Ws/s220/Arthie%2Band%2BBrian%2B16%2B7%2B2011%2B-%2BBlue%2BLagoon.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28193856.post-114777326814646646</id><published>2006-05-16T02:36:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2006-05-16T03:01:11.386-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Workplace Conflict Resolution in Eskom</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;font-size:130%;color:#ffff00;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.africa-dreams.com"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Mthimkhulu International &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;strong&gt;has had amazing&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/4688/872/1600/CH%20-%20PSA%20Logo.2.png"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;font-size:130%;color:#ffff00;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/4688/872/320/CH%20-%20PSA%20Logo.2.png" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#000099;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffff00;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt; successes in clearing Workplace Conflict - in Eskom, through the &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.celebrating-humanity-projects.com"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Celebrating Humanity&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;strong&gt; programme.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:100%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffff00;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.africa-dreams.com/"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt;Mthimkhulu International,&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color:#33ffff;"&gt; a Proudly South African, 50% PDI Woman-owned and managed, training and consulting organisation has facilitated numerous and very successful, &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://celebrating-humanity-projects.com/"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt;workplace diversity management &amp;amp; teambuilding&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://celebrating-humanity-projects.com/"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt;workplace diversity training&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color:#33ffff;"&gt; programmes with Eskom Ltd.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.celebrating-humanity-projects.com/"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt;Celebrating Humanity&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color:#33ffff;"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;programmes have been approved by the Eskom Leadership Centre in Midrand and Mthimkhulu is a Recorded Provider with the Services Seta.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;These &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.celebrating-humanity-projects.com/"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt;programmes&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color:#33ffff;"&gt; have been successfully run in the Limpopo, Gauteng, North West and KZN provinces of South Africa. Contact us for a &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.africa-dreams.com/Forms/Enquiry.html"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt;project proposal.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color:#33ffff;"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffffff;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;One of the areas that are resolved is that of communication - as the following story shows:-&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="color:#3333ff;"&gt;&lt;span style="color:#ffff00;"&gt;Talk straight, talk clearly and talk with respect.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:100%;"&gt;As the lift descended the two Zulu ladies made their observations of my well-rounded figure...&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;"Hawu! We sisi! Uwubonile umkhaba? (Gee Sister have you noticed the stomach.)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;"Yebo, ngiwubonile. Yinkinsela yempela - sengathi inemali eningi!" (Yes, I have noticed it. Clearly a wealthy person - I'd imagine he has plenty of money.)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;All this gossip happened in front of me, as they innocently watched the floor indicator panel. I bided my time and as the two ladies prepared to leave the lift,&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I spoke to them in Zulu. "Sobuye sibonane bomama." (I will see you ladies around some time.)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;"Hawu! Hawu!" They squealed in shock. "We didn’t know that you could speak Zulu!"&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The event reminded me of similar events where people use their "superior" use of language to make negative observations of people.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Many years ago I used the services of a UK born dentist. I had an afternoon session with him. I had earlier washed my mouth out at a supermarket rest-room after eating a sandwich for lunch. It was not enough. He peered into my mouth and pronounced to his assistant, "It is a foggy day in Liverpool."&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;In his English way he had said that I had not brushed my teeth. I was very embarrassed and he lost me as a client and a number of others who I spoke to about the event.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;In a recent training course my beautiful Hindu wife and I were subjected to abuse from a small group of England-born delegates. In loud and profane tones they proceeded to malign the "Indians" and their "ability to speak the truth". This in the round about and sarcastic manner of certain English people. Very little is said directly.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;We are however well travelled and understood perfectly. As facilitators we have to be fair, pleasant and respectful to all of our delegates. Any mention of their meanness would reduce the programme to a series of personal attacks. It took us both a lot of internal and interpersonal talk to get close to our normal warm level of communication.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;At an earlier course three of the many Afrikaners, on a Celebrating Humanity© course, walked into the conference venue and made similar attacks on Arthie and the programme itself. This time it was in Afrikaans. They too never believed that we could understand and speak their language. Their embarrassment was very visible as the programme unfolded with both of us speaking English, Zulu and Afrikaans.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Numerous African people from our many language groups speak of the way certain English speaking South Africans "Shaya ‘ma angles." (To speak indirectly and in a round about way.) It is an old English habit to lighten the criticism and talk around a challenge, so as not to hurt feelings. Often the hurt is greater because no-one besides the speaker understands the true message until much later.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Some people find it necessary to joke in sexual manner. Their jokes are often below the belt and cause great embarrassment to their colleagues and friends who do not discuss these matters outside of their bedrooms. Most African and Eastern groups do not appreciate such jokes. Others try to get their laughs by bringing down "groups" of people. By race, by colour, by language, by religion and even by hair colour.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The message here is all about respect.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When we isolate ourselves into our common groups and use our cleverness to "secretly" or "publicly" attack others, we damage our ability to develop good working relationships.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When we try not "to hurt others feelings", we often cause more pain than we would have by straight talk and without rancour.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When we use our own "language" to communicate our jealousy or meanness towards those who communicate in other languages, we often isolate ourselves.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When we joke in a manner that is sexual or which brings down other people, we bring ourselves, the listeners and our country down.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;We live in a wonderful multi-lingual, multi-cultural and multi-spiritual land. All of our people have a right to respect and dignity. All of us have a duty to be respectful and dignified.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;One huge step of our journey, to a united land, will take place when begin to tell funny jokes that do not demean, or disrespect other people. And another gigantic step will take place when we talk straight, talk clearly and talk with respect.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="mailto:brian@africa-dreams.com"&gt;Brian Moore©&lt;/a&gt; (Assisted by Jeff Thomas - Asizwane.)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.africa-dreams.com"&gt;Mthimkhulu International&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="mailto:trainers@iafrica.com"&gt;trainers@iafrica.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/28193856-114777326814646646?l=conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/feeds/114777326814646646/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=28193856&amp;postID=114777326814646646' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/114777326814646646'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/28193856/posts/default/114777326814646646'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conflict-management-in-eskom.blogspot.com/2006/05/workplace-conflict-resolution-in-eskom.html' title='Workplace Conflict Resolution in Eskom'/><author><name>Arthie and Brian V Moore</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15139338540070412879</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-IrIBZbuv4Tk/Tia2E4iNnCI/AAAAAAAAARk/yKw-PzQT0Ws/s220/Arthie%2Band%2BBrian%2B16%2B7%2B2011%2B-%2BBlue%2BLagoon.JPG'/></author><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry></feed>
